How can you tell if your daughter is gay
Gay children.. How prior did you know?
Oh, to answer your other question.
when I realized he was likely gay I let the quasi-relationship with my father fade away, he never would possess accepted it. The same with his mother. I prepared my own mother & my previous lover in careful conversations over years so they would be able to receive him if or when he came out.
I worked with people at the school & counselors. I found him a GLBT teen support group in the area & drove him a couple of times. Then I drove back & picked him out w/out judgement when he was overwhelmed by the number of loud boisterous youth 10 minutes later. (my son has mild asperbers as well, he hasn't been social really & he's struggling with that too).
I let him comprehend, without mincing words, that I affection & support him no matter who he is. I talked to him about taking his time figuring out what he wanted & who he is, but allow him know I was there whenever he figured it out.
I never judged him for what appealed to him, in toys or in his style.
I did not allow any considerate of discriminatory communicate
Book Excerpt: Is Your Youngster Gay?
Excerpted fromWhy Is the Penis Shaped Like That? … And Other Reflections on Being Human, by Jesse Bering, by arrangement with Scientific American/Farrar, Straus and Giroux, LLC (North America), Transworld Ltd (UK), Jorge Zahara Editora Ltda (Brazil). Copyright © by Jesse Bering.
We all realize the stereotypes: an unusually light, delicate, effeminate breeze in a little boy's step, an interest in dolls, makeup, princesses and dresses, and a tough distaste for rough participate with other boys. In little girls, there is the outwardly boyish stance, perhaps a penchant for tools, a square-jawed readiness for physical tussles with boys, and an aversion to all the perfumed, delicate trappings of femininity.
These behavioral patterns are feared, loathed and often spoken of directly as harbingers of adult homosexuality. It is only relatively recently, however, that developmental scientists have conducted controlled studies to identify the earliest and most reliable signs of adult homosexuality. In looking carefully at the childhoods of gay adults,
Looking for advice (teenage daughter thinks she&#;s gay) (1 Viewer)
Another key piece of information. My daughter is an athlete and looked up and idolized a teen that graduated last year and got a full ride to a D1 school.. She came out her Senior year as being a lesbian.. They last close friends thru social media..
We aren&#;t a super religious family.. my girls go to youth group at the local Church, but it&#;s because the prefer it and want to, I&#;ve never forced them to leave to Church. I don&#;t really have a strong feeling one way or the other on the issue concerning friends
As I relayed in When Your Child Is Gay: What You Need To Know (Sterling, ), I found out that my son was gay from a note with our son's name entwined with another boy's, surrounded by a heart. I accidentally found that note in his room when I was cleaning.
I never questioned him about the heart I found on the sly. How would I have brought it up? Suppose I was wrong? After all, he had a crush on a girl in his class.
I had suspected at times that he was gay. He only had girls to his thirteenth birthday party. He preferred gentler sports. He was always concerned about how he looked and followed fashion. Were these stereotypical thoughts from a unbent mother? You bet, but it was ingrained through the culture's binary system and ideas about how males were "supposed to" behave.
As it turns out, our son didn't appear out until he was 17, was on his own, and brought a boyfriend to visit. Had I asked him if he were gay when he was 13, he probably would have defensively said "No!" He had to work it out and work through his denial. I'm glad I muzzled myself.
Susan Berland, the mother o